I've come to realize that there exists a many ways of getting over something, two of which I've been thinking about: one healthy and one dangerous.
To truly overcome a problem we must solve it. For example, I often project the power to make me happy onto other people. To healthily get over this I have to give myself that power.
Then there's the unhealthy way. An example would be if I were to stop projecting that power onto an unwilling source and onto a willing one. The inherent problem lies in that people will disappoint us.
I cannot simply displace my unhappiness. I gotta grab it and make it my own.